Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert & Holistic Life Coach

Choice is the key to everything you want.   And it is the key to everything that has happened to you and is currently happening to you...and let's not forget, choice is the building blocks for everything that will ever happen to you.

It's common to feel a myriad of "intense" emotions when things happen that we don't like.  In fact, the same is true of the things that we find pleasurable.  Because of our hard wiring we  process life emotionally.  As a result of that our bodies respond by producing physiological effects that impact the autonomic nervous system.  These responses have to potential to build us up or destroy us; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

The choices that we make create that myriad of intense emotions, so much so, that if things don't turn out the way in which we want, we ask ourselves as series of rhetorical questions, "why did this happen to me?  What did I ever do the deserve this?" The answer is simple you made a choice.  And that choice isn't a judgement or a belief or even an emotional response.  It's a choice. 

Our action/choice and subsequent  reactions is a fact.  The emotional connotation attached to the fact.choice is an purely emotional perspective.  What happens is that our emotional view point, our emotional out pouring is erroneously labeled a fact.

I feel it prudent to point out that choice has nothing to do with the  condoning of bad, illegal or criminal behavior.  Choice is simply a fact whatever connotations are attached to that fact are emotional responses and points of view.


I feel it prudent to point out that choice has nothing to do with the  condoning of bad, illegal or criminal behavior.  Choice is simply a fact whatever connotations are attached to that fact are emotional responses and points of view. 


Let's look at this in a little more detail. We'll use the following scenario to provide more distinction around the difference between fact and perspective/view point.

"Someone said something inappropriate to you and you got angry and  stormed out slamming the door as you left."  

• Fact: you were spoken to. 
  
• Fact:  you slammed the door. 
• Fact:  You left
  
• Fact:  You are entitle to feel and act in any way you choose.  

Emotional perspective/ view point: 

• View point: What was said was inappropriate.
• View point:  You became angry.
• View point:  You stormed out.
  
• View point:  Slamming the door made a statement for you.
  

When you ask yourself the questions or when you are asked the questions, "how did I get here?"  Why did this happen to me?"  You can say without condoning bad, illegal or criminal or heinous behavior, without  judgement, without assigning blame, without adorning a cloak  of shame, self loathing or victimization.   You can say,  "I got here based on my choices.  And I will get away from here and get to where I want to be based on my choices!"

By embracing and understanding the empowerment to be had invoking your inherent birth right, your soul right to make authentic choices, in the best interest of self, you will be able to create the life that you have dreamed of living.
 

Dr Wendy Dearborne  Choice Expert & Holistic Life Coach can be contacted
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I was asked how coaching and becoming a life coach  and life coach educator has changed my life.  Before I answer those questions, I will share this.  Throughout my own personal coaching journey, and subsequent education, there is one thing  that I do know...I was not mentored, counseled or given advise.  I was given the greatest respect any coach can give their client.  The greatest respect any person can give another; I was given a safe space, a safe place and time, all the time I needed to find my own answers from within.   I was taught that I am an expert on me.  Just as you are an expert on you.  This is the coaching model that I teach.  I have heard and read some amazing things this week in regard to what coaches believe life coaching is.  Sadly, much of it boiled down to "consulting mentoring and therapy."   However, before I get to that in this blog or the next I'll answer the questions "how coaching and becoming a life coach  and life coach educator has changed my life?"

The answer is simple, profoundly:

I'm not broken.  I'm not damaged!  Nor am I in need of "fixing!" 

"I am whole.  I am Capable and I am Complete." 

This is what I learnt.  Everything that I need resides within ME, contrary to the socialization and the indoctrinations that have shaped my life.  I no longer have to rely on the "external false beliefs" for the answers that I need.  All I have to do is reach inside, make a choice and pull it out.  You see, I'm not broken.  I'm not damaged!  Nor am I in need of "fixing!" 

"I am whole.  I am Capable and I am complete. Everything that I need resides within ME!" 

I have a greater understanding of  how I came to be me and who and what I am.   I know with every fiber of my being that my history does not define my destiny...MY CHOICES DO!  And in that understanding, in that moment when I came to that awareness, that "knowing" of self and being comfortable with self, it set me FREE!  In my freedom to be me, I have a new found clarity on what I want and desire in life.  That knowledge, that purpose empowers me to see the realities I have created in my life and to use those realities to get to where I want to go.  Coaching has taught me how to view my life with a lens that has the shutter speed to reframe my life in the blink of an eye.   The reframing allows me the autonomy of choice.  It allows me to create the life that I choose for me.  You see,

 "I'm not broken.  I'm not damaged!  Nor am I in need of "fixing!" 

"I am whole.  I am capable and I am complete.

Everything that I need resides within ME! 

I  Can Choose To Reframe My Life."

I  have honed, to a razor sharp edge, my communication and listening skills...so I now value and trust implicitly  what I have to say to me.  I know the value of my worth and what my actions are communicating to me...for who knows and understands me better than ME?   My life pertains exclusively to me, just as yours pertains exclusively to you...you can't breathe for me and I can't breathe for you, yet, we breathe each others air.  This is how closely our lives are intertwined.  It is the the tapestry that depicts our lives. This is what life coaching has taught me. It has empowered me to be all that I choose to be from an internal perspective, rather than an external perspective. You see

 "I'm not broken.  I'm not damaged!  Nor am I in need of "fixing!" 

"I am whole.  I am capable and I am complete.

Everything that I need resides within ME! 

I  Can Choose To Reframe My Life.

I know the value of my worth. 

I choose to trust in me implicitly."

I have so many letters after my name that to write them all takes a small paragraph.  Even with all this (hard earned) knowledge, text book and life skills, my expertise pales in comparison to that of my clients own expertise on self.   This is how I engage in my coaching sessions with my clients and how I teach my fellow coaches to engage with theirs.  My job as an educator is to empower you to become an effective coach.  It matters little the letters after your name or the adjective you place before the word coach, i.e. holistic, spiritual, nutrition, transformational, business, health, fitness, prosperity, law of attraction, personal and the list goes on into infinity.

As a life coach and life coach educator I teach the gift that was given to me, for I can do no less.  I teach the importance of giving a safe space, a safe place and time, all the time needed for you to find your own answers from within.  I teach that you are an expert on you and that your clients are an expert on themselves. What matters is your intent, thought process and how you interact with yourself and how you interact with your client.  How you sit down with them at their table.  When I as a coach and life coach educator, sit at your table I know that

"You are not broken.  You are not damaged!  Nor are you in need of "fixing!" 

You are whole. You are Capable and You are complete.

Everything that you need resides within YOU! 

You can choose to Reframe your life.

You know the value of your worth. 

You choose to trust in you implicitly."

The above is how I view you.  Letters before and after my name does not give me the right to view you otherwise.  To do so would mean what?  That sadly,  I see you as broken, damaged, in need of fixing, fractured, incapable and incomplete. This disempowers you and it disempowers me.  This also infers that you require a mental health professional and not a life coach. It makes for a useless education and ineffectual coaching model.  The most important questions I can ask is "what do you want out of being a life coach?  What has life coaching done for you?  And how do you view yourself?"

I am thankful for each and every one of you, my husband "Dee", my sisters, my parents, my family - both blood and extended, my friends, clients and acquaintances.

For you have given me a precious gift that is worthy of life. MY LIFE!…you have and continue to, in your unique ways, help me to become ME! And for that I am truly truly thankful!

Blessings to you and yours! Have a blessed and happy Thanksgiving...and what are you thankful for?

Do you need to change your life? Do you want to change your life?

Most of us live out our lives with fleeting moments of true and authentic thankfulness and gratitude.  You know when you have experienced this type of your own true and authentic gratitude, because it touches the core of who you really are.  You feel a sense of grace and humility…the kind of humbleness that you experience when you've been in the presence of “the majesty of life.”

It’s the same feeling you experience when you witness the majestic a spectacular sunset or the awe-inspiring range of mountains or the birth of a baby or of the new day.  But instead of being in awe at the sunset or sunrise, you are in awe of you, when you experience true and authentic gratitude.  You see “self” in all your glory and acknowledge the majesty of you.  This brings about a state of peace, comfort, tranquility and "knowing" from within, that all is well, all will be well and all is as it should be.

Many of us just get caught up with the business of living and making it through the day.  Trying to execute efficiently and get all the things done, on our to do list, that we need to get done…and then some.  What happens is that as our lives ensue at this hectic pace we have established for ourselves, we disconnect from the majesty of who and what we are.  And we forget to be grateful!  Grateful for all that there is and all that we have chosen to experience in this life.

There is so much power to be found in the simple act of being grateful.  Gratitude has the ability to transform your life from one of lack to that of abundance. This doesn't apply only to wealth, but it applies to creating an abundance in your relationships with self and others, your physical, emotional and mental health.  It positively impacts all things in your life. The paradigm shift in choosing to have an attitude fill with authentic gratitude may or may not garner instantaneous results; it will however, in time, definitely get you to where you want to go.

Gratitude has the ability to improve every facet of your life, and can instantly reframe any situation, taking your outlook from a negative to a positive, in a blink of the eye.  This creates a powerful dynamic that will remove “any” obstacles that is preventing you from moving forward and attaining your dreams.  Being grateful plugs you into “The Universal Source of Creation.”  This connection allows energy to flow unencumbered, so that you will receive intuits, see the synchronicity and or coincidences that give you direct messages, enabling you to make life choices in your best interest.

Gratitude is about the appreciation or the value that you place on people, places and things in your life.  What you value speaks of your prioritization and of the “worth” that you place on people, places and things as you relate to them in your life.  And your worth comes down to what you believe about “YOU” in relation to people, places and things.  Prioritization, value and worth naturally flow into how YOU have chosen to let each and everyone impact your life.   You can see a picture emerging that illustrates our intrinsic worth and our belief, in and about "self," is the root from which I have traced where our true and authentic gratitude has evolve from.  Ironically or not, everything has a start point…even you!  But as I always say, “do your own due diligence.”   Trace your own roots from which your true and authentic gratitude stems.

So my question today is, “how grateful are you to be alive?”  I don't mean being grateful, just because the alternative to being alive holds absolutely no appeal to you.  But grateful just because you are a breathing, living human being, who has chosen to have a human experience with a spiritual influence.

My question to you is, "How grateful are you to be alive?"

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Do you need to change your life? Or do you want change in your life?  Most of us live out our lives with fleeting moments of true and authentic gratitude and thankfulness.  Why?  Why do we only experience fleeting moments in our lives of true gratitude?  The answer is simple.  Many of us just get caught up with the business of day to day living and that is due to the lifestyle that we have chosen…we are caught up with “just making it through the day.”   Many people never give gratitude a second thought, until something traumatic has happen and they can relate to it in some shape or form.  This means, by default they have become unintentionally grateful.

"Did you know that looking for the good or the positive in a bad situation and finding it, isn’t being grateful?"

Over the past few years we have heard much about having anattitude of gratitude. The personal empowerment found in maintaining an intentional attitude of gratitude is nothing new; it’s more like there has been a conscious awakening, a resurgence of an old concept on a global scale. Having an attitude of gratitude has become an embraceable household concept. And within that concept there is much power to be found in the simple humble act of being grateful. 

Intentional gratitude has the ability to transform your life from one of lack to that of abundance. It has the ability to enrich every facet of your life, and can instantly reframe any situation, taking something from a negative and transforming it intosomething positive.  It has the power to remove “any” obstacle that is preventing you from moving forward and attaining your dreams. 

So, my question to you is “are you intentional or unintentionally grateful?”

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne and Olivia Lashley for an episode of ‘My Life My Choice” as we explore the multifaceted concept of “intentional gratitude” and the impact it has on the power of choice…your choice! 

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I’m so very sadden by the violence that is sweeping across the UK.  Being born and raised in Tottenham, I can only say that I have a deep empathy for all the players concerned and all the lives that have been impacted.  There is a ray of hope in all of this.  That out of the ashes will rise up a “stronger people.”  A People who are conscious and of their individual and collective worth!  A People who don’t require the trappings of the external world to validate their sense of worth or belonging.   A people who is comfortable singing together bringing their individual style to harmonize a song of unity.

There is a complexity to this situation that goes deeper than most of our understanding; on a psychological front and most assuredly on a spiritual front.  We are in an era of tremendous conscious growth.  If you have doubts about what I’m saying or about to say, do your own due diligence.  Research the psychology and history of advertising and mass manipulation and take a look at spirituality and energy from a quantum physicist’s view.

That being said, what’s happening now in the UK has roots that go way beyond what is fast turning out to be, yet another “perceived” racial clash.  It is so much more than race and ethnicities.  The situation that sparked riots off in Tottenham that is now sweeping the UK is nothing new.  What we have here is the same problem, with the same location, with the next generation of players - October 1985 Broadwater Farm riot.  Although this was contained, there were tentacles that had a profound influence on the event that ensued.   Ironically, in 1985 some of you were not even born!

Then we have a different location, with the same problem, with the same “perceived” racial undertones only this time with another generation -1976 the Notting Hill Carnival riot. Again, some of you were not born. The generation before that was in August 1958 “The Notting Hill Riots”…I wasn’t even born for that one. The underlying problem goes far far deeper than socioeconomical issues of housing, jobs, education, equal opportunities, urban erosion, racism, immigration, etc. which, incidentally never seem to be solved.

Part of the problem is that the people “feel” disenfranchised. Working hard or having pulled oneself up by one’s boot straps doesn’t stop people from feeling this way. In fact, at the risk of not espousing any particular conspiracy theory that is currently circulating, I do know that it has been orchestrated that we ALL walk on this particular treadmill.  A treadmill that simply states, “work hard and struggle all your life never quite hitting your target!”   Why? Why do I believe this to be true?  When I look at what is going on around the world, I see divisive behaviors being put forth by the powers to be and implemented by us.  I see the struggle for people to maintain and attain the basic necessities of life.  We are always on our tiptoes struggling to reach for the money to pay_________ you fill in the blank.  That kind of daily struggle turns into a daily grind that doesn’t lend itself to conscious unification of self and let alone others.  There is no strength in division whether of an individual or a group.

When a “peoples” get together and feel that they have nothing to lose and nothing to gain, when they feel disenfranchised, you have a recipe for a natural incendiary device. Conflict, racially motivated or otherwise is the tiny spark needed to create cities that burn like powder kegs. The events of August 6th 2011 are a testament to this fact.  And to perceive, as many critics have, that what is going on is mindless and or an ethnic or racial problem is foolhardy. To imply, as numerous citizens have that "these people" who are immigrants or the sons of immigrant and are on the poverty line and recipients of social welfare programs are the scourge of the earth.  To say that they are the cause of this latest civil unrest is absolutely ridiculous and once again foolhardy.  Listen up! And listen well...IT IS A PEOPLE PROBLEM! That means it's all “our problem.”   It’s not solely a political problem, a social science problem, a judicial problem, a racial problem and an injustice problem or a parental problem.  Someone asked me the question, “just who’s problem is it?  I didn’t tell “those people” to go out and riot.  I didn’t participate in anyway.”   No you didn’t and I didn’t and all the people I personally know didn’t, but we have all been affected by this tragic event!  And will be for years to come.  And that fact alone makes it “OUR PROBLEM!”

"People have lost lives, lost loved ones, lost their homes, irreplaceable possessions; ability to earn an income, businesses that have been in families for generations have gone up in a cloud of smoke.  And for what?  Mothers are going to lose sons, wives are going to lose husbands, and children will lose fathers. And for what?"

The term “these people,” which I have read and heard banded about ad nauseum, regarding this tragic situation, creates delineation amongst people.  The term speaks of the perceived ruling classes "inalienable" rights. Because of my race and heritage I have been and no doubt will continue to be called, “these people.”   As will all the members of my family.  This includes my nieces and nephews and their children and their children's children.

Like many migrants from the Caribbean, my parents were two of the thousands who went to England after the WWII, to do the jobs that the indigenous people didn’t want to do anymore...and all to the highest good!!! “These people,” my parents and the generations that have followed were not really wanted and have never ever been accepted. This pervasive thought process and energy impacts ALL our core beliefs and DNA…So, we have what we have...a cauldron that's always on the brink of boiling over.  Now add to this the general populace, all races, all creeds and all genders…add their anger, disillusionment, bitterness and need for their voices to be heard and you have the incendiary device that has had the switch tripped.

Political and socioeconomical solutions won’t scratch the surface.  It’s been tried and it has failed...miserably.  In order for this to never happen again, the solution is simple. It has to start with the reflection that one sees in the mirror. You have to be the change that you want to see.  You have to change within self, with every fibre of your being, before there can be a permanent external change.  This is not a panacea and I would never insult you by purporting it as such.  It is however a good place to start.

What I will share with you is that I do know from both personal and professional experience that the solution to this problem is all about you and the choices that you make!  So I suggest that you start with asking yourself these basic life altering life coaching questions,

• What are you wanting?
• What do you really want for your life?
• And what does the process look like to achieve this?
• What does it look like to break this down into small achievable steps?

For more information contact  Dr. Wendy Dearborne;  drwendy@itsmylifemychoice.com 

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 Random Acts of Kindness

Join us: August 14-21 for Random Acts of Kindness Week!

There has a lot been written and spoken about “paying it forward.” I think that the premise is awesome and I know many people use paying forward as way to engage in “Random Acts of Kindness.” I know that I do! A random act of kindness can literally be the difference between someone deciding to end their life and someone deciding that life, their life, is worth living after all…

So, I started thinking why not dedicate a week to “Random Acts of Kindness.” Not paying a good deed forward, but being kind to another soul, to your fellow man, just because you can. How do you feel when someone…a stranger or not, shows you a simple kindness? It could be as simple as holding a door open and saying something nice…genuinely…nice. Or helping a work colleague who is behind by doing some filing or reach…you fill in the blank. I’m talking about an act of kindness with no strings attached and the only expectation is that you have to feel GOOD about yourself. Far too many of us go through life berating and beating ourselves down for perceived faults and short comings, that rise up out of our issues surrounding our self worth. "Random Acts of Kindness" will make you feel good about you and can go a long way to boosting your self confidence.

When I mentioned  dedicating a week to "Random Acts of Kindness"  to someone they expressed that they had never been a recipient of a random act of kindness!  Wow!  That's a little sad!

I challenge you as I have challenged them to participate in the random acts of kindness week and report what happens to you over the coming months.

The Universal Law state what you put out is what you get back.  It's a bit like a light bulb, if your output is 60 watts you can’t expect 150 watts of illumination.  So give it a try and see what comes back to you!   I would be honored if you would share your experiences with me.

Guidelines

Have no expectations, be creative be authentic and genuine. 

Namaste

Dr. Wendy

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Join us: May 16 - 22 for Reach One Teach One Day

There has a lot been written and spoken about “paying it forward.” I think that the premise is awesome and I know many people use paying forward as way to engage in “random acts of kindness.” I know that I do! Random acts of kindness can literally be the difference between someone deciding to end it all and someone deciding not to end it all… I feel that paying it forward can transcend random acts of kindness…I know that paying it forward can have far reaching effects.

I was reading an article yesterday that snagged my attention. The irony is that I have actually heard and read similar stories several time. The gist of what was being said was; “if you are teaching someone to fish, you must give them a pole. If you are teaching someone to be self-sufficient and self-sustaining from the land, you must stop providing them with food.” The underpinning here is that you do them no favors by doing it for them. So give them the tools and allow them to hone their skills, so they can do for themselves and in turn show others how to do for themselves…and so it goes on.

I though how wonderful it would be to pay if forward with information; “priceless information” instead of a buying a cup of coffee for a stranger, or paying for someone’s dry cleaning, lunch, dinner, etc., give them information. Information that has proved transformative in your life and by sharing your story you might just empower someone to do for themselves. You might hand them a key that unlocks a door that presents them with endless possibilities to create the life that they want to live.

Think of all the profound experiences that you have had, the global knowledge, the wisdom and the insights that you have gained through the years. You have something that someone is in need of. You have knowledge that can transform someone’s life.

Now, I’m not talking about ramming this information down people throats or beating them over the head with it. I’m speaking about a gently sharing, of something that has worked for you or that you have knowledge of that you feel the need to share. Giving your wisdom and sharing your knowledge can help people to empower themselves and create the momentum sometime needed to move forward in life.

“Each one reach one; and each one teach one!” I first heard this phrase about 15 years ago from an on air radio personality, DJ Galaxy Glen. I remember thinking at the time what a profound statement and that this is a concept that has potential…I could literally envision it in my mind’s eye. Because if each one of us reaches someone and each one of us teaches someone, we can ALL help each other to grow and prosper in mind, body and spirit, we will enrich our lives and theirs. Thank you Glenn!

What wisdom large or small, old or new do you have within that may help one person or a million people?

I declare May  16 - 22  “Reach One Teach One” week.

The rules are simple:

• What wisdom, knowledge or insight has changed your life?
• Are you ready and willing to share it?
• Explain to people that you are taking part in the “Reach One Teach One Week,” a global life enrichment exchange. Tell them that you’d like to share and exchange words of insight wisdom with them.
• Be prepared to receive as well as give wisdom.
• Only positive and uplifting information.
• Don’t tell them what to do…share what you did and how to do it.
• Don’t force your thoughts political and or religious views on other people who do not wish to be a part of the exchange.
• Reach one share your knowledge and teach one

I would be honored if you would share with me how your week went.

Namaste,

Dr. Wendy

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This story is a metaphor for our lives and how we choose to live it!  Many say that they want this or that and lament over what they get.  But how badly do you want what you say you wanted?  Some of you may know this story very well, some may have never heard it before.  Whichever category you fall into embrace it with new or fresh eyes as a metaphor that can change your life should you choose to see it that way!

An influential and wise old sage lived on the side of a mountain near a lake. It was common practice for the people of the village to seek his advice. The old man spent many hours sitting in front of his small hut, where he rocked in a crude rocking chair made of branches and twigs. Hour after hour he sat and rocked as he thought.

One day he noticed a young warrior walking on the path toward his hut. The young man walked up the hill and stood erect before the sage. “What can I do for you?” the old man asked.

The warrior replied, “I was told by those in the village that you are very wise. They said that you could give me the secret of happiness and success.”

The old man listened, and then looked at the ground for several moments. He rose to his feet, grabbed the boy firmly by the wrist, and led him down the path back toward the lake.

Not a word was spoken. The young warrior was obviously confused, but the sage kept walking. Soon they approached the lake, but did not stop. Out into the water the old man led the boy. The farther they walked, the higher the water advanced. The water rose from the boy’s knees to his waist, then to his chin, but the old man said nothing and kept moving deep and deeper. Finally the boy was completely submerged.

The sage held the boys head firmly under water. The boy struggled desperately, but it was no use. At this point the wise man stopped for a moment, turned the boy around, and led him out of the lake and up the path back to the hut.

Still not a word was spoken. The old sage sat again in his creaky chair and rocked to and fro.

After several thought-provoking minutes, he looked into the boy’s questioning eyes and asked, “Young man, when you were in the lake, underwater, what was it you desired most?”

Finally catching his breath, the boy replied, “Why you old fool, I wanted to breathe!”

The sage spoke these words: “My son, when you want happiness and success in life as badly as you wanted to breathe, you will have found the secret.”

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The pressure to perform, working with colleagues, anticipating client needs, engaging new participants, structuring course material, and staying ahead of the competitive curve and the toll, “making it happen” can have on your life describes what people go through daily.  In other words, STRESS.  Using a non-traditional approach like aromatherapy might prove to be, just the ticket for the ultimate stress reduction.

Stress is a six-letter word that packs a sixty-ton punch.  An insidious constant that actively intrudes in both working and personal lives, it even has the audacity to attack during sleep. Stress has reached epidemic proportions and as a result is now receiving serious notice within the medical community.

Anxiety, uncertainty, worry, depression, anger, and detachment, to name a few are all manifestations of stress and in today’s fast paced hi-tech world band-aid solutions in the form of pills are on offer; solutions publicly acknowledged for their somewhat dubious side effects, which ironically create new stresses that have to be dealt with.

Researchers have discovered that the daily activities in our lives that creates stress activates the fight or flight syndrome, whereby adrenaline is pumped into the blood stream supplying temporary turbo strength or speed.  It is designed for immediate assimilation if stored in the body adrenaline creates toxins.  This phenomenon has been linked to disorders and disease origins such as, diabetes, hypertension, insomnia, and hormone imbalances and the list really does go on.

Daily stress places us in a continuous state of fight or flight, pumping adrenaline into our system that more often than not is left unused.  The no matter the provocation or desire, it is considered inappropriate to, drop-kick the boss, employee or client, family member, friend__________ you fill in the blank.”    We need to find other ways to vent our stress.

There are many traditional and non-traditional approaches to assist in stress reduction, but far the most power non-invasive and adaptable is Aromatherapy.  Aromatherapy is a ancient branch of herbology that involves the use of essential oils to enhance one’s entire well being.  Each essential oil has its own personality, characteristics, and healing capabilities.  Aromatherapy incorporates easily into any lifestyle.  Pure essential oils can be purchased at most health food stores and used, in addition to other things to aid stress reduction.

Aromatherapy Tip

• Lavender essential oil is renowned for it relaxing qualities.

• Pink Grapefruit essential oil is renowned for up lifting the spirits
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To unwind:  Add 8 drops of lavender to a bathtub of warm water and relax for 10-15 minutes inhaling the fragrant and infusing in the stress reducing and healing benefits this purple flower brings.

In the work place to reduce anxiety:  Put 10 drops of grapefruit on a cotton ball and position at your work station. As the zesty fragrance diffuses in your area so will your tension. 


Note: grapefruit can irritate the skin.  Rinse with cool water if irritations occurs.  Keep out all essential oils away from, children eyes, do not ingest.  Seek medical advice if accidental eye contact or ingestion occurs.

…Statistics show reducing stress increases the chances of a longer, healthier, fuller life...

Dr. Wendy Dearborne is a classically trained Master aromatherapist. 

For more information contact   drwendy@itsmylifemychoice.com