Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert & Life Coach

...its my life my choice


The Intrinsic Value of Excuses Part II

Posted on January 27, 2014 at 3:15 AM

There is a bigger picture to subterfuge found in making an excuse for not following through. It’s a form of self sabotage and it will eclipse your ability to succeed in life.  Excuses have ruined many an opportunity in people lives.  Excuses have torn apart, relationships, health, finances and stunted personal growth and the list goes on.

As a choice expert, I know that an excuse has more than extrinsic value in our lives.  It’s more than just meaningless words designed to placate a person into believing ones BS.  It’s all about the ulterior motive of not being blamed for choosing not to follow through. And the ulterior motive is where the value of an excuse comes into play.

Before I touch on the priceless intrinsic value that excuses bring to our lives, I want you to understand that there is a huge difference in telling someone something factual for what has happened and making an excuse for what you’ve done. That difference boils down to ownership of your choices, taking responsibility for your being and being accountable for your actions.


Let me elaborate, there’s a difference between saying I’m running late, I’ll be there as soon as I can. Bang! End of story.    Verses creating an epic storyline about why you’re late and all the imaginary things that are being blamed for your state of being; which is…late.  Whichever way you slice or dice it, no matter what has happened, you’re late.  You’ll find life so much easier when you just own your choices.

The need for an excuse actually has precious intrinsic value in our lives. It shows pertinent issues that may be bubbling beneath the surface that we may need to look at.  Issues that need to be addressed ensuring that we don’t self sabotage our lives. And help to minimize the potential to ruin relationships and opportunities, which can be the difference between living a happy and fulfilling life and or not. In short, an excuse’s intrinsic value supports us in being nothing less than our true and authentic selves.


When you make an excuse, you need to look at the following areas in your lives, they will tell you what it is that you are really wanting for you.

1.  The need for approval.

2.  The desire to assuage people so you remain in good standing, just in case.

3.  Where you really want to be.

4.  What you want to spend your time and energy on.

5.  Your level of commitment.

6.  What changes need to be made?

7.  Where you can take control of your life.

8.  Look at living your authentic life.

9.  Choosing to express your truth.

So, what does your go to excuse tell you about you what you are wanting in your life.  Remember, it’s your life it’s your choice.

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