Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert & Holistic Life Coach

That’s right!  You can only control you. All this time you thought that you had control over_____you fill in the blank.  But you didn’t!  You can’t control how people are going to react.  You didn’t have control over anyone, but you. 

For a variety of reasons we have created the illusion of being in control,and it is just that, an illusion.  Because when people places and things no longer react the way we want them to, our illusion of control is shattered.    Understanding how to integrate control in your life and the role it plays is one of the important key in you succeeding.

I want to be free to live my life has a wealth of meaning.  Does it mean free from drama, chaos, parents, spouses, siblings, friends and children.   Or does it mean a difference in the relationship with self and others.  Or free from ill health, overweight, cooking, cleaning, shopping, car pooling and paying bills.  Or does it mean doing all the above, but somehow differently.  The meaning of freedom is a uniquely intimate thing.  It is as intimate as drawing the breath of life we need to sustainus.  

Freedom speaks of our will to do that which we want to do…or that which we choose to do.  So, you want to be free to live your life?  My question to you would be, “how do you know that you are not free and not livingthe life that you want to live?”